Dating During The Holidays

So is it better to be alone at family gatherings during the holidays or bring a date? My experience tells me go alone! If your family is like most, it is stressful enough during the holidays and why drag an innocent and potential mate along. I think the rule of thumb is if you have been dating awhile and feel the relationship is going somewhere then it is okay to bring them along to meet the family. I find I don’t enjoy myself because I am worried my family will embarrass me and what they will think of my date. I know my family will be scrutinizing this guy and comparing him to other relationships in my life. Who needs that stress? Better yet, if the relationship doesn’t work out then at the next holiday gathering, the family is wondering what happened to your man. You can see the thoughts running through their heads….What happened to the last guy?” “Will she ever get married?” “Why can’t see stay in a relationship? The list goes on.

Every family is dysfunctional so why subject your new potential beau to the craziness? Keep this relationship under wraps for as long as you can until you think it may be long term! The best way to enjoy the holidays with your crazy family is alone!!!

Happy Holidays!

Why Do Men Do That? Wednesdays 10/23/13

I have a friend, good guy, 43, and on the dating scene. He told me about this woman he went out with a few times but he is not into her and doesn’t know how to break off. Seriously?? Really? Love the guy, but you are 43 – just be honest and tell her you aren’t feeling a connection. At this stage in a relationship, if you have only been on a few dates, no one has made a huge investment. Yes, one person may be more disappointed than the other, but we are all adults here. Don’t play games! Don’t keep the woman wondering when you just stop calling. We need closure!!!! It’s that simple. Just tell us you don’t feel that “spark” or whatever it is. The worst thing a man can do is leave us hanging! Then we wonder what we did wrong. We get if you don’t feel the spark – happens to us as well. But just give us closure!!!!

I hope he followed my advice and did the right thing. And called her – no texting either. That is lame.

Geez – why do men do that?

Credit Check Please!

I came across an article on CNNMoney.com by Blake Ellis, Bad credit: A deal breaker for many singles, about men and women asking for credit scores when dating. Seriously? I would say that the majority of us want to be with a partner who is fiscally responsible, but I am surprised at the stats of this survey:

“21% bringing it up before committing to a relationship and 19% comparing scores before moving in together. A mere 1% discussed their scores on a first date”

Granted, people can seem like they are well off but really up to their eye balls in debt, but how do you possibly approach this early in the dating stage without completely offending your potential relationship? Me, personally, would feel this person is way too into material things and just looking for a sugar momma (or daddy). One would hope you could tell if there was an issue financially with your potential suitor. I know this is not always the case, but unless you decide this is the “one” and you are going to spend the rest of your lives together, not sure you can approach this subject directly so early on. Talk about ruining potential chemistry and all the romance out of a relationship! Just my opinion…. Talk about a new meaning to “can I have your digits?”

Enjoy the article: Bad Credit: A deal breaker for many singles